We take a look at the factors that can affect your libido and how you can rekindle the flame in your relationship.
Stress plays a significant role in loss of libido for men and women. When you’re anxious your body produces the stress hormones cortisol and adrenaline, which interfere with the hormones involved in sexual response. To treat the problem it’s necessary to identify the source of the stress and work on that area in your life. Exercise, healthy eating and sufficient sleep are all helpful for relieving pressure and boosting libido during stressful seasons of your life.
If the source of your stress is your relationship you’ll need to address the issues at play before intimacy is restored. Couple’s counselling may be necessary if this is the case.
Loss of libido is a common problem during menopause. Vaginal dryness brought on by the body’s change in hormones may make intercourse painful, which is a serious passion killer. Prescription vaginal oestrogen creams are available that reduce the discomfort associated with dry, thin skin, and water-based lubrication will help as well.
If the problem during this time is simply a complete lack of sexual desire, try taking the focus off intercourse and engage in other sensual activities to slowly ignite the flame again. Massage, baths and date nights boost intimacy, which is much needed if you’re trying to bring back that loving feeling.
The contraceptive Pill also accounts for hormonal changes that could affect your libido – hormones affect the body and the emotions and have a significant impact on the sexual response cycle of the brain. If you have experienced a significant loss of libido since taking a particular oral contraceptive consider trying an alternative Pill or using a different form of contraception. Discuss your options with your doctor.
An unsexy setting
Is your bedroom a calm and sensual space, or is it messy and chaotic? A cluttered space will make you feel anxious and uptight, which is a major deterrent to intimacy. Create a space that sets the mood by keeping your room tidy and free of distractions (such as technology and piles of paperwork). Create a romantic vibe with candles, soft music and a sensual room fragrance.
Certain medication can adversely affect your libido, including anti-depressants, psychotropic drugs and medication for hypertension and diabetes. Physical conditions such as erectile dysfunction and endometriosis are also sure to dampen sexual ardour. Speak to your GP about treatment to help restore your sex drive if any of these factors are at play.