Being sexy knows no age!

Friday, 24 May 2013

Sexy at any ageI am “a woman of a certain age.” I am flirting with peri-menopause and usually prefer an early night in with a cup of Earl Grey and a good book to a night out. But I would like to believe that I am still sexy. It’s just that my target demographic has changed somewhat, and the men who find me attractive are a touch grey about the gills themselves.

I am inspired by older women who look fabulous – and by fabulous, I mean more Nigella than Madonna. I love women who look comfortable in their own skin, despite the fact that it hangs a bit loose – like Helen Mirren, whom I think gets better looking with age, although she told the Hollywood Reporter that “the fact that I look good at the age I am is bloody irrelevant.” Which is just another reason why we love her so much, the feisty minx.

Which actually brings me nicely to my point: that surely our looks at ANY AGE should be about how we live in our skin and engage with the world, rather than how smooth it is? Yes, I am going to say it: our way of being really is sexier than how we look. And I think you’ll find that most men will agree with this. They might look at the big-busted, prancing porn star, (and make stupid “phwooaarrr” sounds) but in reality, that woman would scare the life out of the average Joe. In reality, most men (certainly any man worth his salt, and that’s the only kind we’re interested in, surely) love women the way they are: they love women who are comfortable and joyful and make them feel happy. We all know a woman like this: one who isn’t movie-star gorgeous by any stretch and yet the men love her anyway. It’s because she sparkles. And that’s the secret to being sexy at any age. Sparkle.

And so to this end, I look after my skin because I know that radiant skin is better than scarily unlined, stretched skin. I mean, who does Joan Rivers think she’s fooling? Although at least she’s not trying to pretend (like Madam Madonna) that her looks are all natural. She told the New York Times that she’s had so much plastic surgery that “when I die they will donate my body to Tupperware.”

I look after my skin, but I won’t fill it or freeze it with stuff or stretch it till I’m barely recognisable. I want to look like an attractive, vital, vibrant 50-year-old, not a scary, shiny-skinned 40-year-old. And yes, Madonna, I do think there is such a thing as being (vaguely) age-appropriate, so I won’t bare my breasts to an audience (of more than one). Because a woman with sparkle (and CLASS) knows that a hint, a flirtatious suggestion of what lies beneath, is way sexier than putting it all out there. And it has to be said: I think that holds true for a woman of ANY age.

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  1. Jeanette Watkins

    There is a certain aura about a woman who is proud of her age and isn’t trying to look like mutton dressed as lamb. We must take care of our skin and eat healthily, but to try and look 30 again spoils our personas. I am proud to say I am 62 and happy in my own skin. The trick is to always smile, be kind and learn new skills!

    4 years ago •

  1. Sue1N

    How we feel about ourselves shines through to others. I have learned it does not matter what shape or age you are as long as you feel confident in who you are and live to treat others as you would like to be treated. Then you are beautiful to others.

    5 years ago •

  1. Queen Shai

    A woman after my own heart. I wholeheartedly agree and believe this. If I had 3 wishes, one would be that all women would feel this way: comfortable in their own skin, beautiful in their own way etc. You can’t please everyone after all, but aim to please yourself. Start with the woman in the mirror.

    6 years ago •

  1. Glamista

    I second and third and fourth that!

    6 years ago •

  1. Nadine

    “Being sexy knows no age” – I second that!

    6 years ago •

  1. Lynne Singleton

    I really hope I “look young” for a very long time. I try and take care of myself as much as I can!

    6 years ago •

  1. Humphreys

    Awesome, inspiring and truthfull! Thumbs up!

    6 years ago •

  1. Azraa

    Thanks for the inspiring article! SO true!

    6 years ago •

  1. Lumkwana

    This statement really touched me”. I want to look like an attractive, vital, vibrant 50-year-old, not a scary, shiny-skinned 40-year-old”. what an article, very true.

    6 years ago •

  1. Funindawo

    LOL donation of body to really Madonna? It is really such a beautiful thing to look after your skin

    6 years ago •

  1. Lauren

    “Because a woman with sparkle (and CLASS) knows that a hint, a flirtatious suggestion of what lies beneath, is way sexier than putting it all out there” <---Love that!

    6 years ago •

  1. Vinessa

    i love that this article does ask that women age gracefully and to not follow the pack to surgeon with hopes of becoming someone that’s really not them.

    6 years ago •

  1. Slamet

    Love this article as it embraces aging.

    6 years ago •

  1. Simimano

    Thanks for the great article! :)

    6 years ago •

  1. Larissa B

    honest, open minded article. also has some lovely humor.really enjoyed it, was a good read. now i feel like i can take on any age

    6 years ago •

  1. Mpoyif

    It’s always best to work with nature not against it. The best way to keep looking young is to stress less and smile more

    6 years ago •

  1. me

    May Madonna also get to understand life.
    Life is so much more.

    6 years ago •

  1. Carlene

    Loved this article! So very true and I agree 100%

    6 years ago •

  1. karis

    I think women can age beautifully and look great without all these crazy procedures. I hope i age as well as so many of these beautiful women out their. thats why i started taking care of skin. you’re never too young you’re never too old.

    6 years ago •

  1. anisha

    What a truly enlightening read! Age aint nothing but a number!

    6 years ago •

  1. Ladyconfused

    I love this article! And this made me laugh ““when I die they will donate my body to Tupperware.”

    6 years ago •

  1. CindyBotha

    This inspires ALL ages!!!! Even the young!

    6 years ago •

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